A popular phrase that became so prevalent in the last few months is: “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”
This has become associated with the sad passing of popular TV host Caroline Flack; she posted an image of the saying on her Instagram in December last year, along with the caption stating “Anything … we can literally choose to be anything …”
These words resonated with so many people and really made them stop and think about being kind. I for one, found the saying to be thought provoking and felt moved by it.
It shouldn’t take a tragedy for something so simple, to become something that is almost a new way of thinking. However, many people used this as a new positive outlook. It changed attitudes – especially towards how women treat each other. Women started to empower and uplift each other. There was a coming together and a solidarity.
Unfortunately, what first appeared to be a moment of clarity for so many people, started to ebb away. Slowly but surely, the phrase and the sentiment was forgotten and the sad reality of trolling, ill feeling, resentment and bitterness crept back in to some people’s comments and actions.
Attitudes towards others and being kind is always something that I have thought about a lot as I suffered from bullying for years. I’m not saying I’m perfect, but I wouldn’t dream of intending to upset some. Nor am I a person that lies or is “fake”.
I’m not naive and think that life is rosy and that everyone can always get along, but what I do believe is that people can always be civil. It is unnecessary for anyone to be deliberately unkind.
All to often I see and hear people being absolutely scathing about someone that they were just being extremely friendly with. Why? Why do this?!
Everyone is aware on the face of it, that someone’s comments and actions can affect another. However, what we are not all aware of is just how much it affects that person. Each person deals with things in their own way and what one person may find funny or harmless, another may be deeply hurt and offended by – and there are different levels to those feelings. Each person is different.
How we act towards each other and the words we use are a choice … our choice.
So, I find what happened to Caroline Flack extremely sad and I love the phrase that she brought to the forefront of people’s thoughts and the caption she appended to it:
“In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”
“Anything … we can literally choose to be anything…”